Message from David Karp
everyone needs to read this.
I will always reblog things like this, it won’t ruin your blog or the look of it, and this could potentially save a life.
Say it with me everyone:
Stopping violence against women is a fight to get women taken seriously.
Violence against men isn’t taken seriously because women are perceived as weak and fragile
When women are taken seriously, violence against men will be too.
Because right now it is culturally unfathomable that a man couldn’t defend himself against a woman.
Your problems stem from anti-feminism and misogyny. Now get your ass on the right side and stop trying fighting us. We have the same problem.
#feminism #misogyny #anti-feminism #i get so frustrated about these things #if you help us fix our problems #your problems will be helped as well #we’re not on polar opposite sides of the fight #(dipshit) #i didn’t say that #this is totally an insult free post #leave me alone
We’re all aware that male victims of violence are ignored due to a gender binary. No one brought up feminism and anti-feminism other than you.
This graphic is simply a reminder that male victims do exist. You’re the one that seems to think this is antifeminist. You’re the one that is making this issue polar. You’re the one that is, through your actions, claiming that feminism opposes the recognition of male victims. I mean, what other conclusion could possibly be drawn from your claiming the recognition of male victims to be antifeminist?
It’s good that we both agree male victims of violence tend to get ignored, but this issue is due more to sexism against men than sexism against women. Feminism has, at many times, directly and intentionally antagonized the cause for recognition of male victims. Helping only female victims, especially when that “help” involves erasing male victims is only going to make the problem worse. (Also, we’re really not sure how focusing only on female victims of domestic violence and pretending male victims don’t exist is going to help make women look less weak and fragile.)
“Help us, and that’ll somehow eventually indirectly help you” is a useless platitude. It isn’t helpful, and when you mostly throw it in people’s face as an argument for why they shouldn’t help the half of the victims you pointedly ignore you are alienating potential allies. You want to know why these people seem “anti-feminist”? It’s because of the way people like you are representing feminism. After all, we could say the same thing, couldn’t we?
Right now you’re part of the problem, not part of the solution. Once that changes, then we start the ally discussion.
This really seems to be an unbalanced comparison. It’s certainly not the recognition that men can also be victims that is anti-feminist, but the use of the existence of male victims to try to detract attention from those fighting violence against women.
Studies conducted in the USA and Canada say that men are only slightly less likely to be assaulted by women than the other way around, however, these surveys only ask if a person has been assaulted by the opposite gender - not how severely or how frequently. A slap that does no lasting damage counts as physical assault.
Violence against men that results in a woman breaking bones, maiming, or KILLING the man is rare - the opposite is NOT.
Assaults that involve women raping or sexually assaulting men are rare - the opposite is NOT.
Women who beat their partner bloody -repeatedly and on a regular basis- are rare - the opposite is NOT.
By claiming that male victims make up ‘half the problem’, it acts to reduce how serious male violence against females is to be taken.
I feel for men who are victims of violence, no matter who the assailant is. Men shouldn’t feel ashamed of being victims of violent women.
And women are often violent toward other women.
But male violence against women is not only far more severe, it is also -culturally accepted-, and THIS is the problem.
It seems that when you scream at your kids and call them “garbage” and “fatty” on a regular basis, you often end up with depressed kids. That’s not an enormous surprise. What is surprising, however, that Amy Chua’s technique—which advises explosive anger and name-calling when a child falls short of expectations, amongst other things—doesn’t even get results. “[T]iger moms produced kids who felt more alienated from their parents and experienced higher instances of depressive symptoms. They also had lower GPAs, despite feeling more academic pressure.” Chua, who originally wrote that “the solution to substandard performance is always to excoriate, punish and shame the child,” has back-pedaled slightly since her book was published in 2011.
SCIENCE AGAIN PROVES THE OBVIOUS
No offense, but I personally find it hard to enjoy fanservice-y magical girl series. I’m not one of those prudes who thinks that females portrayed in any sexual context is automatically objectification. I’d love it if more series were sex positive, but the difference is that those seek to empower which is exactly what magical girls mean to me: empowerment. The goal of fanservice, if not parody, is usually just to attract a male audience. That’s fine, but to me, it’s missing something important.
Submited by hanabi-hime
Especially when they are underage it’s awfully gross.
IM GOING HOST
Peepo Choo vol 2
I think that a lot of tumblr would benefit from reading peepo choo idk
This is important.